Pragati '14 : Relations Forum Video

Very proud to be part of Relations - the HR forum of Pragati' 14 ASB, Coimbatore. Check out this promo video, like it and share it if it really conveyed you the theme Business Beyond Profit 

Relations and trust

Recently when I was attending a session, during a short break all the attendees had a brief discussion on being single child. Most of the attendees were single child and while discussion, one boy who was a single child to his parents asked me “Anagha, How is your brother? Don’t you get frustrated by your brother and don’t you feel like you are victimized due to your brother’s actions? Because many of my friends used to say their brothers or sisters were very nasty and had a big enmity to their siblings. ”

     I was very surprised on hearing those questions because my brother is one of the gifts from God that I consider is the most precious one that I ever got. It was true that we had fights. But those fights rarely extended beyond one day. I also remember those fighting happened only when we were children. Now when I recollect the time I had spent with him, I realize that 95% of the moments that I shared with him were the moments when I really laughed to the core even without caring about the surroundings. After the discussions we had I even felt my life would have been incomplete without him.

      Not only this but I  have heard several persons complaining about their family most of the times that they are very strict, won’t even check for their preferences and don’t have any freedom etc.. Also I have heard from many of the girls that they never traveled alone in train (the fact that those who said this was elder than me made me surprising). During these instances I have felt very proud to have born in a family that gave me enough freedom to distinguish between what is wrong and what is right.              The most important thing I felt while I was rationalizing the cause for this difference in this treatment by my family when compared to other was trust. First of all the person be a girl or a boy should have a trust on themselves that they won’t go in a wrong path. For each person, in life a point will definitely come when he or she has to take a decision between an easy but unethical and difficult but ethical. Being ethical gives you a sense of trust of yourself and also in relations you are maintaining.

    It is always essential to maintain good relationship with at least to one’s family members. Because the fact that someone is out there to whom you can always rely upon gives you a sense of security and also inspires one to work more ethically.

   Here the most difficult thing in maintaining a relation is maintaining the level of trust involved. It is okay if you couldn't fulfill the promise you gave to them or its okay you couldn't spent time with them. It just need your honest reply to patch up the fight you had with someone due to some instances as mentioned above. But once you breach the trust, the entire relation is gone. One may have to give up something too big if you are breaching the small five letter word trust.

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Gut feeling and larger success

Had a wonderful group activity last Saturday!!! It left me intriguing. Facilitator's questions left me in a trance. For a larger good how many are willing to accept smaller failures. It reminded me of Dumbledore's actions in Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows. 

        Wise people's gut feelings may not impress everyone in the first shot. Sure failures may be the first thing to follow. But how many of us are persistent enough to stick onto the gut feeling and bring back the larger success despite the small failures that the gut feeling may bring into.

        Aren't we also the people who just try to flow with the tide neglecting the signals that this beautiful world uses to direct us towards our ultimate goal of life?  Yes, we all are just running behind instant success; not even ready to accept small failures or in other words small failures causing depression. All are trying to achieve the small goal of only their own success, not considering the success of humankind as such. Now how can we criticize the politicians who are doing the same (trying to just achieve their own small success rather than a big success of helping common people) as we do?  

What I felt on March 8' 2013

 This year, the UN has decided to celebrate the Women’s Day (on March 8th) with the theme “A promise is a promise: Time for action to end violence against women”. Till yesterday night I didn't think seriously of the topic and didn't feel to write anything on it. But yesterday night on reaching back hostel I saw a video clip in a news channel showing a few police men in public beating a girl and her dad who came to complaint against the harassment that she had to face. I felt the same insecurity that I felt on hearing the Delhi gang rape case that happened on 16^th December 2012. Even though there were so many outcries after Delhi gang rape case, cases like these are again being reported in newspapers daily. On hearing the Delhi gang rape case for the first time, a chill passed through my mind because it could have been me also in place of her travelling with a colleague after my office work. In these scenarios I seriously feel that a promise is a promise and its already time for action to end violence against women. The UN says the purpose of the theme is to promote ongoing efforts at the national level and globally to end violence against women, share experiences and innovations in delivering on commitments to women and girls, and support efforts and strategies, particularly at the national level to increase investments focused on gender equality and women’s empowerment. 

Various political decisions as in the recent presidential ordinance  about the recent harassment of women and nasal may serve as promises and procedures in dealing with a grave social malady. Our recent experience establishes the fact that the administration promises alone will not have any social impact unless certain basic conditions are fulfilled. The drawbacks in the present legal procedure and the executives’ implementation are the following:

(i)                Collecting evidence in  a sensitive issue involving reputation of a women is almost impossible

(ii)              Interested parties especially political heavy ways find it easy to destroy evidence, to purchase witnesses, to subvert the whole case.

(iii)             Here justice finds no room.

(iv)             Women subjected to men’s brutality bears a socially stigma and are treated as outcast.

(v)              Society is not vigilant in such master as  they abhor any involvement

(vi)             The administration is inefficient and corrupt

(vii)            Legal proceedings get unduly delayed. Justice delayed is justice denied

(viii)          Punishment is often mild and often culprits get freed.  Numerous chances of appeal for reconsideration, for mercy petition makes justice ineffectual

Recently the number of cases in women harassment, rape, murder, suicide etc., has increased tenfold during the last one year and this is a great national shame. What a downfall to a nation. The worst part of it is a top functionary who chairs a legislative body himself is a respondent in a criminal case of mass rape. Such unethical instances are many either due to technical lacony in the rule or due to other extraneous influence. This has opened the eyes off many a social activist and sensible citizens and they are contemplating various ways other than official promises to meet a challenge. Such an action from citizens is called for when govt fails ot maintain law and order. Many such movements to shift power is to be carefully examined. It should not spread hatred and violence which will be worse than present inaction and delay. What is called ‘moral police’ has voluntary emerged at certain places - a good sign for awareness of responsibility. These bodies should be controlled by superior agency people’s representatives and legal advisers  This should not however assume the shape of another bureaucracy. We may call them people’s committee. Their primary duty will be collection of evidence on the spot reporting to police ad following up the case at every level.

Farewell to jargons which emanate from political interest. Accept truth which emanates from ethical considerations

There is an equally important task – the task of educating women how to face untoward situations. Confidence has to be created in them through the process of physical, psychical training. Our aim is our country’s positive gain and welfare, in family security and unity. 

New venture

I used to pen down to papers my thoughts that used to rush into my mind just like a swirling wind.. But now I feel that is not enough.. I should blog so that I can rewind those thoughts easily when compared to the earlier version of penning down to a paper.. Just see these humble thoughts and let me know the feedback...